First I would just like to say that I’m so happy you recognized you were in a bad and unsafe situation and decided to leave. I know so many people who have been in abusive relationships and didn’t get out until they had been extremely hurt. Just remember that you have control over your entire situation. Make yourself accessible to meeting new people in the first few days and weeks of school. Sign up for a club that you wouldn’t normally join. Keep your door to your dorm open so people will want to stop in and say hello. Also, now that you’re living closer to home you may want to go back on the weekends. Don’t do this for the first 6-8 weeks of school. Chances are you’ll meet more people on the weekend and you don’t want to miss out on that by being at home.
Regarding the relationship, maybe just take a break for a little while. Focus on establishing yourself at this new school. Spend some time studying and doing academic work. You don’t need to immediately find a boyfriend the second you step on campus. If you meet someone that you truly connect with, don’t hesitate to go out with them. But you don’t need to actively search for a boyfriend immediately.
I’m truly sorry that you have experience all these hardships and its only natural to worry that it will occur again. If you find that the anxiety is too much to handle on your own, go to a mentor our counselor on campus. They will be able to better help you handle the stress of changing schools and dealing with the aftermath of an abusive relationship. I wish you all the best of luck and hope that you are able to have a better experience at your new school!